Pick a character I’ve written and I will explain the top ~three to five ideas/concepts/etc I keep in mind while writing that character that I believe are essential to accurately depicting them.
It has come up a lot recently!!! Does your shelter have a website with their FAQ on? It’d be cool to link to something like that if this ever comes up again.
This isn’t our exact shelter (which I prefer not to name, and I’m not sure where the FAQs are these days), but an organization we work with a lot has information here.
RAINN is also good.
CONSTANTLY WORRIED I AM NOT MAKING ENOUGH THINGS TO VALIDATE MY EXISTENCE
Is this about Korra or Asami? D:
Nope! I purged my dash of anyone who is awful about either of them. :)
I’M SORRY I SHOULD HAVE JUST NOT SAID ANYTHING SO NOBODY HAD TO SEE IT I’M SORRY SORRY SORRY I mean I’m guessing this is about what I think it is, if not *sheepishly backs out*
It is about that, but I don’t blame you at all. I’d rather have people rebutting that kind of thing than letting it pass (if I had more energy, I’d have responded myself, not nearly as pleasantly). And it came over my dash three times, so it’s definitely not on you!
I am just absolutely disgusted with people blaming Aredhel in exactly the same terms that people blame real life victims all the time. In particular, “why didn’t she just get out” (and the associated “if she really wanted out, she could have left, so obviously she didn’t”) is so common it’s in the FAQs at the domestic violence shelter where I work. I honestly cannot believe people are perpetuating this awful, toxic bullshit over an elf.
I’m about on the point of blacklisting one of my absolute favourite characters so I don’t have to see the disgusting things people say about her